Narcissistic Diversion and Denial is a tactic used to undermine our sanity, making us feel like we have issues and even denying our existence. It manifests through statements like "I NEVER said that!" or "YOU are overreacting!" The narcissist's goal is to deny the truth, divert blame, and avoid accountability. This behavior is a form of gaslighting, rewriting history, and constant lying.
Their interactions are not meant to connect or enlighten but to confuse, control, invalidate, and create drama. Narcissists exploit relationships to extract whatever they can, using emotional withdrawal and silencing to instill guilt and compliance. They betray personal information to feel powerful and manipulate with flattery or protests of innocence to achieve their agenda. They use verbal skills to deflect accountability and shift blame onto others.
In these relationships, we may believe there is relevance and reality, but to the narcissist, we are merely objects that serve their needs. They use manipulation, gaslighting, lies, and psychological abuse to maintain control. This creates cognitive dissonance, where the truth becomes a lie, and lies become the truth.
Narcissists live in a world of fantasy, lies, denial, and deceit. They create their own reality and demand that everyone around them accepts it. They make and break their own rules and expect unquestioning approval. Any reflection on our individuality or demand for accountability threatens their false identity.
Living in their world involves constant gaslighting, betrayal, lying, isolation, triangulation, smearing, and manipulation. We must tiptoe around their fragile ego to avoid triggering their wrath. This is a distorted world where the narcissist detonates hidden bombs, and there is no value in this relationship except for preserving our sanity by leaving.
This world of make-believe serves the narcissist's needs. It is filled with secrets and lies, held together by fear, guilt, and obligation. The narcissist sabotages everything and everyone, ensuring nobody outshines them. It is a place where dreams and self-esteem die, and genuine relationships do not exist.
No or minimal contact is essential. Knowledge, education, and clarity are imperative to start the journey to recovery.
Cheers,
Will Grey